Tonight I was thinking about friendships, mainly dwelling on the relationships in life that I’m really thankful for, hopefully we’ve all got some – you know the ones that its just good to be with, lots of laughter, always good to get a text from with yet such a deep sense of, if I really needed them, they would be there.
Friendships can be a bit like plants really.
The friendship I described above is like a plant flowering on full bloom – it’s in its summer season, we hope its summer lasts forever really – its great, joy giving, heart warming, crisis handling. We want these in our lives. Some people in life only need one or two of these, some have a dozen or so – each to there own. Its that, speak once a day or speak once a fortnight, it all means the same.
There are other flowers in life, that you plant up in the spring, they don’t look all that much, but they do look healthy and there is an expectation that they will become something great. We have new relationships in our lives that are like this, the sense of ‘I don’t know you very well’ but there’s an excited anticipation that something good is growing – in a sense our heart shouts ‘come on summer’ over these growing plants. There’s a confidence in us, that good things are developing.
Going ever further down the soil – there are some relationships in life that you don’t even know exist. They are seeds planted and not yet formed, its an even earlier stage that the one I described above. These are the relationships that might start to appear tomorrow, next week, next month or next year. How exciting – we’re hungry to see these watered. You know the friend you have, that you didn’t even know a year ago – its that kind of feeling of it appearing from nowhere.
And then there are relationships that it felt like the frost caught one night. You know that plant that was doing really well and then one night a sharp frost killed it. We look at it now and there’s nothing. There is a sense of disappointment, like the plant you’ve been tending was just caught in a moment and gone. We’re needing something supernatural almost to happen to something naturally gone. There’s something in us that isn’t satisfied it just died.
So as I was driving home tonight, I was pondering these four analogies – I think we all have these four types of plants in our lives, in a relational sense.
I’d like to see them all watered, I want the best of the best! – maybe more so though – what sort of plant am I being to someone tonight, am I a joy bringer? am I in a friendship just starting out?
We weren’t designed to be lone rangers – we were MADE for relationships.
So let it rain. Relationships must be cultivated like a garden. Time, effort and imagination must be summoned constantly to keep them flourishing and growing.
One person caring about another represents life’s greatest value.